How Does EFT Work?
EFT typically unfolds in three stages:
1. De-escalation: The therapist helps you identify and understand the negative interaction patterns that keep you stuck. Instead of reacting defensively, you’ll start seeing the emotions driving the conflict.
2. Restructuring: This is where the magic happens. You and your partner learn to express your vulnerabilities and emotional needs in a way that fosters closeness. It’s about saying, “I feel scared when I think I’m losing you,” instead of, “You’re always so distant.”
3. Consolidation: The new patterns of connection are solidified. You’ll leave with tools to keep your relationship strong and resilient, even when challenges arise.

What Makes EFT So Powerful?
EFT works because it taps into our deepest emotional needs. Research shows that about 70-75% of couples who engage in EFT move from distress to recovery, and 90% see significant improvement in their relationship. These numbers aren’t just statistics; they represent countless couples who’ve found their way back to love and connection.
But beyond the numbers, EFT offers something even more profound: hope. It reassures us that no matter how lost we feel, it’s possible to find our way back to each other.

What Does EFT Feel Like?
Therapy can sound intimidating, but EFT is less about “fixing” and more about discovering. Imagine sitting in a safe, supportive space where you can finally say what’s in your heart without fear of judgment. It’s like opening a window in a stuffy room—a breath of fresh air for your relationship.
Couples often say EFT sessions are filled with “a-ha” moments. You might realize how your partner’s silence during an argument isn’t indifference but fear of making things worse. Or you might discover that your anger masks a deep longing to feel appreciated. These insights change everything.

EFT is for Everyone
While EFT is most commonly associated with couples, it’s also incredibly effective for families and even individuals. Anytime relationships are central to your struggles, EFT can provide clarity and healing.

A Path to Lasting Love
Emotionally Focused Therapy isn’t just about solving problems; it’s about creating a relationship where both partners feel truly seen, heard, and cherished. It’s about rewriting your love story with kindness, understanding, and connection at its core.  If you’re feeling stuck, know this: It’s never too late to reconnect.  With EFT, you can find your way back to each other and build a love that stands the test of time.
  
Karen Hurley Psychotherapy and Associates has been providing emotionally focused therapy services in the Mississauga area for 30 years and we invite you to contact us to learn more about how we can help.